Are very shy women fit to be prostitutes? Also, does semen always smell bad or does it depend on the man?
If by “shy” you mean “painfully introverted” or “extremely modest”, sex work is definitely not for you. Though a whore needn’t necessarily be gregarious (and in fact many are somewhat introverted), she needs to at least be able to meet and smoothly interact with new people in order to carry out the basic activities of her trade. Likewise, she need not be so comfortable with nudity that she can flash crowds on Bourbon Street in broad daylight, but she can’t be so averse to it that she’s paralyzed by the prospect of getting undressed in front of strange men. If, on the other hand, you simply mean the shyness that comes of inexperience and uncertainty, my previous column “Inexperience” may provide an answer.
In answer to your second question: the smell and taste of a man’s semen varies with his body chemistry, health and diet. The semen of two different men living in the same environment, or of the same man under different health conditions or diets, can vary to a surprisingly wide degree; however, some factors (such as muskiness) may be relatively constant in an individual no matter what his diet. In other words, if you find the taste or odor of a particular man’s semen intolerable, it may be something he’s eating, or it may be due to a health condition, but it could also just be the way he’s put together (or the way you’re put together).
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Or the way you’re put together.
I hear some folks don’t like leafy green veggies either.
Interesting last para, Maggie. Maybe you could expand it into a connoisseur’s guide. Or a recipe book.
You’re absolutely right, and I’ve modified the last line accordingly.
It’s funny in my case. The people I meet in my life outside sex work seem to think of me as shy (as a child I was extremely shy) , which they seem to confuse with me being introverted. On some matters I’m just very private (which is beneficial in my situation)
While..on the contrary I’m not a shy person at all. I thought I was… I must admit that I often felt as a ‘socially awkward person’ ..until I started my first sexual relationship at the age of 16, and it suprised me how comfortable I was with sex and men in comparison to my girlfriends, who were the giggly type of girls, who back then, still believed in ‘the one and only good guy’ (this has changed a lot). And barely two years later, I decided to be an escort. At first I enjoyed all the attention of different men, yet after a while I started to feel weary, and decided to only continue with two of my greatest clients. (escorting wasn’t my full time job, after all) The sex was awesome, and I loved their company (and the payments too).
And yet, two weeks ago I finally made the decision to quit everything.
I didn’t want to be someone’s ‘dirty little secret’ any longer. I want to be someone’s girlfriend. Hmm, it’s strange, but I’ve become increasingly ‘conservative’ in time. As if my ventures in escorting remind of the morals and values I had been taught as a young girl by my mother.
Nevertheless, I frequently read through your entries, and I too believe in the radical notion that women and sex workers are not children, but adults with their own responsibilities.
The sex worker that my mother knew started out quite shy, but she changed over time and became very open; chatting to other women in the local café and answering their questions. She eventually married an American soldier, most likely a client.
It prolly depends on the guy but I prefer “inexperienced” escorts.
Not because they are any easier – but because the experienced ones tend to want to guide the whole session. That’s a noble way to go about things I suppose – most girls figure they are getting paid … so they tend to want to orchestrate things and pamper the guy.
I’m not sure … but I almost get the feeling that maybe most guys show up a bit shy and kind of expect the girl to take charge?
But I’m not really into getting “pampered” and I MUCH prefer for the girl to just let me take charge. I don’t “critique” oral techniques or magical sexual tricks that the girl may or may not have. TBH – when I’m getting oral I’m mostly laying there thinking about the main event … and when do we get to that. I mean if she’s submissive and has a great attitude – as a WOMAN evolution has already programmed her to make me as happy as a lark.
I think maybe the tendency to want to “orchestrate” may also be a method to keep control of the session to ensure it doesn’t steer itself into “boundary busting” activities. But – I think I’ve done this enough to where I can drive the car and keep it on the road with no problems.
Just my two cents. If the girl is hot and enthusiastic – even if she’s only had sex in her life a few times – I’m good to go. There’s only one woman I’ve ever been with that ever disappointed me sexually – and that was because she was completely mechanical. She was an amateur though – and no doubt the prettiest girl I had ever been with before I started visiting the Frankfurt FKK’s … but it was a real downer to be in bed with her.