A good story…should make you think about things and feel things and maybe even teach you something in addition to merely entertaining you.
– “A Whore By Any Other Name…”
In order to give one last formal retrospective on my columns from three years ago, and to keep my weekly “From the Archives” feature from getting too unwieldy, I’m introducing this new monthly feature. When I first started the blog in July of 2010 I had no idea how successful it would be, nor how long I could keep the one-per-day rate going; in fact, by December of that year I was really unsure that I’d be able to make it to the one year goal I had set myself for daily posting. But then I figured out a number of ways to make the job easier (most especially the scheduling feature), and now here I am going strong at three years. And that’s not the only thing which took some getting used to; though I had written a number of academic papers, informal essays, letters to the editor and such over the past several decades, I had no idea exactly which tone I should strike for this blog. It took me a few months to get it right, and in looking back at my early posts I find many of them rather clumsy, stilted and affected; they seem unable to decide whether they’re academic or informal, and I seem to have been going out of my way to rattle people’s cages in some of them. Another thing you may notice is that my early columns were all rather long; my initial length was 1500-2000 words, but few of these are much shorter than 2000 and three of them were multi-part. Even the shortest, “What’s In a Name?” (on stage names and the reclamation of the word “whore”) is almost a hundred words longer than my longest non-TW3 columns these days.
Many of my early columns cover very basic concepts, misconceptions, etc; “Streetwalkers” and “Pimps” are self-explanatory, “Wanna Date?” examines the lack of clear distinction between paid and purely-social dating, “Couples” looks at couple calls and “Madonna and Whore” studies the titular fallacy through the lens of the Girl Friend Experience (GFE). Another of the basic fallacies appears in “The Myth of the Wanton”, the reason escorts lie about our age and weight is the subject of “The Numbers Game”, and “Rough Trade” is the first discussion of rape in sex work (and includes descriptions of my own experiences). Nor was that the only “first” that month: “Do You Party?” (clients who use cocaine) was my first “pet peeve” column, “The Trick” my first fictional interlude, “Just Drawn That Way” my first exploration of male-female differences, “Mary Magdalene” my first special-occasion column, “Playing the Part” the first written in direct response to a reader question and “Phryne” my very first harlotography. Rounding out the batch are “Modern Marriage” (which postulates that modern marriage bears more resemblance to traditional love affairs than to traditional marriage), and “Genesis of a Harlot” (a three-part account of my road to whoredom).
So that’s how these columns are going to look; after the first year they may change somewhat, or I may even decide to do something different. But as I think most of y’all have probably learned by now, when I do change things I try to make the new features at least as interesting as those they replace.
Well the first year or so had a lot of “background” info. I mean, you have to establish your credibility as a “retired call girl” so you had to talk about that whole experience. I actually kind of miss a lot of your “hooker sea stories” and a lot of the other stuff about sex that you used to write. Not talking about “wanking material”, I don’t think you’ve ever written any of that stuff, though there was one “threesome” you described with a couple on the Northshore that I found myself a bit aroused by. There was another article about you getting tied up by a client that was hot too.
And I keep running into articles that I’ve NEVER read yet – somehow I missed them. Like this one … “Do You Party?” that you mention above. I just went back and read that and I had no idea that cocaine caused erectile problems – I’ve never used it even once. Well, it may not be good for men but my experience with female users is simply … “Awesome!”. I lived in an apartment with two other guys at 2121 Ala Wai in Honolulu. Let me tell you … the nurses that lived around us always had coke and they’d al\ways call us up and offer us some. We would always say … “No we get drug tested regularly but you girls have fun with the coke and then come party with us afterwards!”
Let me tell you – there is no better catalyst for an orgy than women on coke. Any other time … women are like water on a fire to even the idea of group kinkiness. Coke seems to melt all that away for the girls! Fun times. 😉
Wanna Date?, Madonna and Whore, Modern Marriage, Just Drawn That Way and Playing the Part all explain very important concepts in an accessible way. Well worth reading.
I’ll agree with krulac and gumdeo: you needed those first things to establish why we should listen to you, and what you had to offer, and to help those of us who thought, for instance, that call girls are employees of escort agencies (yeah, that was me). You had to smarten us up a little.