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General Sex Questions
- Is there such a thing as too much sex?
- Is sex painful the first time?
- Why is sex such a taboo?
- Is squirting real?
- What is a slut?
- What’s DATO?
- How can a man delay orgasm?
- Why doesn’t my lady like it when I delay orgasm?
- How can you really make a covered blowjob work?
- What’s the best way to perform oral sex on a man?
- What’s the best way to perform oral sex on a woman?
- Why don’t some women like cunnilingus?
- Is it true that some women orgasm from rape?
- What can a woman do about painful intercourse?
- How can I make sex good for my virgin girlfriend?
- Is there a right way to do anal sex so it doesn’t hurt?
- Is there anything a woman can take to climax faster?
- How can a newlywed woman increase her sexual desire?
- What can a woman do if she stays dry during “duty sex”?
- What positions are good for a small penis and a large vagina?
- Does a bisexual woman dating a man still really want women?
- How does one separate sex from feelings so one doesn’t become attached?
- Why do men make false claims of emotional intimacy when they needn’t?
- Is there a loving, respectful way to discuss performance with a partner?
- Is the risk of non-venereal diseases higher without a condom?
- Are there health benefits from having sex with multiple partners?
- How does one handle group sex with several men and one woman?
- Is exhibitionism an all-or-nothing proposition?
- Do you think there is a connection between intelligence and sexuality?
- Why is sex supposed to be fun for singles, but sacred for married folks?
- If all sex is transactional, why does relationship sex feel so different?
- Should a woman control her sexuality to make others comfortable?
- How is it that women can seemingly cut off their sex drives at will?
- Why aren’t women concerned about female sexual dysfunction?
- Would stopping masturbation help with my sexual problems?
- Why do so many women have rape fantasies?
- How does sexual repression affect people?
- What advice can you give a “sex addict”?
- Isn’t faking orgasms counterproductive?
- Can relationships with different sexual histories really last?
- Are tall men more endowed than those of average height?
- Could any woman really be satisfied by a micropenis?
- What type and size of penis do most women really prefer?
- Will severe Peyronie’s Syndrome doom a sexual relationship?
- Can a woman really fall in love with a man by seeing his penis?
- Does semen always smell bad or does it depend on the man?
- Do women prefer circumcised men because the average uncircumcised man doesn’t care for it properly?
- How does a responsible, intelligent woman reconcile her decision to terminate all sexual activity with a man she still professes to love?
- Why is it that some women are happy with sexless marriages and won’t understand why men can’t be?
- Is the “Obedient Wives Club” right about divorce being caused by women not satisfying husbands?
- Is P411 actually dangerous?
- How do I find an escort in my city?
- How can I get providers to give me a referral?
- How do I find cheap, unprofessional sex workers?
- How do I find a reputable agency and avoid cops?
- What alternatives to P411 would you recommend?
- Could you provide me a reference for a referral site?
- How have the laws about sex work changed in Ontario?
- How do I find a sex worker I can emotionally connect with?
- What fraction of online casual sex ads are really escort ads?
- Are some escorts starting to encrypt client communications?
- How can one find a good escort if one only has Backpage to use?
- How does one who lives in a small town or rural area find an escort?
- Why would anybody pay for sex instead of trying to “pick up” women?
- Will taking payment in gift cards protect a sex worker from prosecution?
- What do you think about verification services like Date Check and P411?
- How do verification services like Date Check and P411 screen escorts?
- How does a couple go about finding a reputable sex worker?
- How does one find a male prostitute for a straight woman?
- How does one find an escort for lesbian experimentation?
- What is the market for heterosexual male prostitutes like?
- What’s the truth about female sex tourists?
- How does one go about starting an escort agency?
- How can I get established as a booker & screener?
- How does one go about attracting the right girls for a brothel?
- How can a man get a driver job with an escort service or brothel?
- To what extent is sex work criminalization tied into racism?
- What is the truth about Asian massage parlors?
- Why are most massage parlors run and staffed by Asians?
- What do the Japanese call Western girls who do sex work in Japan?
- Why are most pimps black?
- What should be done about “sex trafficking”?
- Isn’t the Swedish model at least better than criminalization?
- Is there any evidence of real underage girls being trafficked?
- Is forced prostitution common enough to be a cause for concern?
- Do you advocate that escorts adhere strictly to a referral system?
- What does it mean on an escort’s ad if it says basic plus one or two?
- How can one pass screening without giving incriminating information?
- Should I trust an escort who doesn’t have much of an online footprint?
- Without the threat of arrest, would escorting become more dangerous?
- Is there a penis length or thickness that is too large for most escorts?
- Is there anything beyond a condom that will reduce STD risk?
- Is it wrong to offer a homeless young woman money for sex?
- Is having sex for donations to a third party still prostitution?
- Is it “sexist” for a sex worker’s client to request a custom service?
- Is there really a legal difference between prostitution and escorting?
- How should I answer a therapist’s claim that ALL prostitutes are slaves?
- Is there a real chance of coronavirus infection from a reputable provider?
- How is seeing a sex worker “harm reduction” in a monogamous marriage?
- How does sex work criminalization suppress the sexuality of all women?
- Does violence against women change in different regulatory regimes?
- How does one answer a young child’s question, “What’s a prostitute?”
- How can I speak out for sex workers yet not admit personal interest?
- Is religion the chief factor in forming attitudes toward prostitution?
- How can street sex workers be controlled without criminalization?
- How can a woman discourage her husband from hiring whores?
- What fraction of male sexual encounters are with prostitutes?
- Why can’t I get a girl by myself instead of paying for sex?
- Why don’t sex workers mind being objectified by clients?
- How can I convince my wife to see an escort with me?
- Can mature, chubby women make a living as escorts?
- Is it bad if I can only feel intimacy with sex workers?
- Why aren’t married men off limits for prostitutes?
- Should I hire an escort to surprise my husband?
- Is it common for sex workers to use AirBnB?
- Is it possible to become addicted to whores?
- What is meant by “upscale” in escort ads?
- Can whores and clients really be friends?
- Is professional BDSM legal in New York?
- Is a sex-for-job deal prostitution?
Questions About Whores
- Are very shy women fit to be prostitutes?
- How do escorts decide how much to charge?
- Can an asexual woman make it as a sex worker?
- Are providers ever jealous or possessive of clients?
- Why do some sex workers like to pay for social dates?
- What’s the difference between a courtesan and an escort?
- Why are there so many flaky, unprofessional escorts now?
- Why do some downscale hookers insult and demean clients?
- What if a client starts mistaking romance for professionalism?
- How does one tell professionalism from actual romantic interest?
- Why doesn’t an escort’s performance turn into real sexual desire?
- Why do mature escorts want sex when many mature women don’t?
- How does a sex worker still desire to make love with her partner?
- Does a whore enjoy sex more with an attractive (to her) client?
- Are most providers lesbians for their own sexual fulfillment?
- If it’s just a job, why don’t prostitutes use their real names?
- What would be the ideal mate for a sex worker be like?
- Why do so many escorts like doggie style?
- Can hookers orgasm several times a day?
- Why do so many more escorts kiss now?
- Do most hookers enjoy sex with clients?
- Is it safe to perform oral sex on a call girl?
- Would an HIV-positive escort quit working?
- Are a lot of hookers very “loose” vaginally?
- Do you give discounts for regular clients?
- Do working girls really appreciate gifts?
- Why does it matter what hotel I get?
- Are many providers mentally ill?
- Are many providers drug addicts?
- Were many hookers molested as children?
- What are the mechanics of retirement for a sex worker?
- What’s the average age at which a woman enters prostitution?
- How can I make sure that a lady doesn’t have a pimp?
- How can I make sure that a lady isn’t “trafficked”?
- Why did my favorite escort pull a fadeaway on me?
- How can one tell a transwoman from a genetic one?
- What should I do if an escort’s ad seems illegitimate?
- Are providers deliberately vague about their services?
- How can a young guy get an escort to take him seriously?
- What would a young escort swindler look and behave like?
- How can I find out if my girlfriend is secretly a sex worker?
- Is an escort safe if she has years of well-documented history?
- Wouldn’t a retired courtesan make the best partner for a man?
- Why do so many sex workers not want to fight criminalization?
- How can I make up to a provider I didn’t treat well in the past?
- Can a loving but pragmatic whore/client relationship really work?
- If I climax quickly in a long date, is it OK to ask for another round?
- Is it OK to stay the full time after climax, just to enjoy her company?
- Can Nevada brothel workers collect disability for work-related injury?
- How can I help a troubled sex worker who doesn’t seem to want help?
- My favorite seems to have ghosted on me; should I try to contact her?
- What does it mean if my regular escort stops using protection with me?
- Should I worry sex isn’t as special for my escort girlfriend as it is for me?
- My ex-girlfriend may be doing sex work. Should I do something about it?
- How can a male professional service provider cultivate sex worker clients?
- Why would an intelligent girl with a good family & boyfriend sell her body?
- Why are my escort sweetheart’s friends so skeptical about my feelings toward her?
- How do I let my regular escort know that I truly value and appreciate her personality without coming off as creepy or patronizing?
- Are most sex workers insulted by gifts with “get out of prostitution” hotline numbers attached?
- Is it possible to rescue trafficked victims, whilst not interfering with willing sex workers?
Questions About Clients
- What’s the proper way for a client to express dissatisfaction with service?
- Why won’t blood banks accept blood from men who see prostitutes?
- How can a client who was busted by cops help sex worker rights?
- Are clients of sex work as varied as those of other service work?
- What’s wrong with a man wanting to have sex the whole time?
- Do men ever hire escorts to actually escort them somewhere?
- Why do so many clients think they can have bareback now?
- What about clients who really need a woman to orgasm?
- Will a professional care if I can’t get an erection?
- How do whores deal with unattractive clients?
- How can a new client get his first references?
- Is it true that clients really hate prostitutes?
- Do providers look down on married clients?
- How do whores deal with underage clients?
- Do clients expect whores to have orgasms?
- Do some clients mostly just want to talk?
- What percentage of men see prostitutes?
- Why do sex workers prefer older clients?
- Are “talkers” still a type of customer?
- Do clients always want intercourse?
- Can a client be an ally?
Mentoring Questions
- Do I really need to pay taxes?
- Is kissing clients unavoidable?
- Are most clients easy to please?
- What are the basics of screening?
- Would you be my mentor in sex work?
- Can you help me with phone screening?
- How common are difficult or creepy clients?
- Do you offer business coaching for providers?
- Why won’t my amateur friend be my safe call?
- How do I shift from agency work to independent?
- What’s the best way to figure out what a client wants?
- Is it a good idea for a newbie escort to hire a manager?
- Did you ever have a client who physically repulsed you?
- When screening, are there any good alternatives to references?
- Why shouldn’t sex workers charge different prices for different acts?
- What should I do before, during and after a client intends to rape me?
- What should I expect from an agency regarding security?
- Is birth control essential, or are condoms okay on their own?
- What common disease symptoms should I be on the lookout for?
- What advice do you have if I want to start working immediately?
- A man has offered to “keep” me in real style; how do I make it work?
- Why am I so different from what society expects of mistresses?
- Can a woman with unusual skin markings succeed in escorting?
- Do you have any advice for an aspiring plus size courtesan?
- Do you have any advice for interviewing with an agency?
- Can you give me any advice about working on the street?
- Do you have any advice for an aspiring sugar baby?
- Do you have any advice for a new escort in Malaysia?
- How do I return to sex work after a years-long hiatus?
- Can a sexually-inexperienced woman make it as an escort?
- How can I figure out what kind of sex work is best for me?
- If I only do domme or fetish work, are cops still a concern?
- What kind of sex work should an 18-year-old virgin do?
- How do escorts command more respect from clients?
- How can I get an interested man to pay for sex?
- How can a new independent escort get started?
- How can I switch from sugaring to escorting?
- How can I become a high-end courtesan?
- Are scars a big obstacle for an escort?
- How can I deal with work-related anxiety?
- What should I do if a client starts stalking me?
- How do I connect with other escorts in my area?
- How can I develop a sex worker support system?
- Can an escort avoid reviews and still be successful?
- How can I decide whether to come out to an advisor?
- What if my local message board is trying to drive me out?
- How can I help my partner see that my work is just work?
- What advice do you have for an escort who’s losing regulars?
- How do I keep my work and private life completely separate?
- Is it a good idea to reject mentally disabled clients or those under 18?
- How can a “high end” sex worker get over her internalized whorephobia?
- What do you think is the best way for sex workers to be out, yet not completely compromise their futures?
Requests for Advice
- How can I rid myself of sexual inhibitions?
- How can I get over being sexually stunted?
- What should I do about intense social anxiety?
- How can I help my boyfriend’s erectile dysfunction?
- Can a consensual adult incestuous relationship work?
- How can I deal with issues that keep me from intimacy?
- How can I get my husband re-interested in sex with me?
- How can I help a friend lose his virginity with an escort?
- How should I act for my boyfriend who’s into cuckolding?
- Is it normal for my husband to want me to dress like a slut?
- How can I get my boyfriend to be more sexually aggressive?
- What do I do if I suspect my boyfriend is having a gay affair?
- What do I do if my husband calls escorts every time he does coke?
- Is it wrong to be bothered by professionals trading services for sex?
- Should a sexually-traumatized man go to a whore to lose his virginity?
- How can I have a healthy relationship if I can’t trust men not to cheat?
- Is it ethical for a man I’m poly-dating to out me to his primary partner?
- Why doesn’t my sex worker girlfriend want sex with me any more?
- Why can’t I shake the feeling my sex worker girlfriend has a pimp?
- Is it OK to ask a sex worker friend if she’d see me professionally?
- I’m infatuated with a sex worker, but I think she’s using me.
- How can I get my wife to give me blow jobs willingly?
- How can I get my wife to talk dirty to me?
- What should I do if I fall in love with an escort?
- How can I deal with guilt about seeing sex workers?
- What should I do if I get caught seeing sex workers?
- How can I make sure my escort experience is enjoyable?
- How should I interact with ladies who work at soaplands?
- I’m a new client; why won’t any escorts agree to see me?
- If I call an escort, will she tell me if she saw my husband?
- How can I get over the death of my sex worker girlfriend?
- How should I write a review for a session that went south?
- What should I do if an attractive escort gives poor service?
- Should I tell an escort that her email shows her legal name?
- I’m rather stout; how can I get women to give me a chance?
- Could you introduce me to a sex worker I can correspond with?
- How can I tell an escort her real name is showing in her emails?
- How can I become more confident and less shy around women?
- How can I get an escort to shower immediately before seeing me?
- How do I know if an escort’s heat rash was really just a heat rash?
- Was I wrong to return unannounced to an incall for my lost phone?
- How can I get my adult daughter to accept my history of sex work?
- Any advice for a lesbian relationship that started as escort & client?
- Any advice for a married man who has fallen in love with a lesbian?
- I’m an adult virgin with a new girlfriend; should I see an escort first?
- How can I get an amateur who’s attracted to me to accept payment?
- Can a relationship work if the man was completely broken by his ex?
- My regular escort suggested dinner off-clock; should I tip her anyway?
- My masseuse suddenly got on top of me sans condom; what’s it mean?
- I can’t have orgasms with other people; could a sex worker teach me?
- Could a sex worker help a man learn to delay premature ejaculation?
- Should I stop seeing escorts and focus on rekindling marital intimacy?
- How can a transwoman meet men who see her see more than a fetish?
- Can I regain the spiritual dimension of sex I used to have with my wife?
- My dominatrix is ignoring me for accidentally offending her. Any advice?
- I hate anal sex but my husband keeps pestering me for it; what do I do?
- My frigid wife mocks my masturbating; should I ask her if I can see pros?
- I’m in love with an escort & now she won’t see me; can I regain her trust?
- I only started seeing escorts recently because my wife is extremely sex-averse; do you have any general advice?
- I’m obsessed with crossdressers and paranoid about young women; would an older escort be more understanding?
- What should I do if I’m only aroused by women I feel an emotional connection to, but no woman I meet seems interested in dating?
- Would it be a good idea to arrange for a discreet pro to meet with a divorced friend as if by accident, to rebuild his confidence with women?
- I have such a good regular relationship with a professional that I no longer feel the need for a conventional relationship. Have I gone nuts?
- I’m falling in love with my sex worker and she has intimated she feels the same, but already has a boyfriend. Could she be leading me on?
- I’m so deeply frustrated that I’m having twisted fantasies and have grown to hate women; could an escort help me get my head straight?
- I told my husband he could see escorts as long as he told me, but he lied about it anyway; am I wrong to feel hurt?
- How can I get over feeling that paid sex is all business with no sexual desire on her part?
- I was in a long relationship with a prostitute, and now I feel guilty when I hire escorts. Why?
- In my country buying sex is much more stigmatized than selling it; how do I avoid feeling guilty?
- What should I do if a girl I love wants to be an escort, but I think it’s the wrong choice for her?
- How do I resolve my dislike of sex work with my belief that people should control their own bodies?
- How do I help an Asian working girl whom I suspect may be trafficked?
- How can I help true trafficking victims, and teach others to do so?
- How do I convince a sex worker to leave that life?
Personal Questions
- What’s the strangest place you’ve ever had an appointment?
- How did you deal with anal rape without serious trauma?
- Why Don’t You ______?
- What are your views on polyamory?
- Why do you use the word “whore”?
- Do you ever miss being a call girl?
- Have you had a regular job since retiring?
- Did you ever contract any STI?
- Did you ever have a condom break?
- How many men a day did you see?
- What were your age limits for clients?
- Did you ever really orgasm with a client?
- Did you want less sex while working?
- Doesn’t monogamy get old for you?
- Would you ever return to work?
- Did your husband dislike your working?
- Will your husband ever write a column?
- How does your lesbianism affect your work?
- How can I arrange to see you professionally?
- Maggie, where are you advertising these days?
- Why don’t you use your real name and picture?
- How did you stop thinking of your husband as a client?
- Would you out a client to further your political agenda?
- As a pagan, do you believe in magic and psychic powers?
- If you had children, would you want them to do sex work?
- How do you react to anti-whore statements from strangers?
- Have you ever had a prostitute “read” you as a former whore?
- Will you settle a dispute between me and another sex worker?
- Why have you remained a sex worker for so much longer than most?
- How could you have been promiscuous when you never amateur dated?
- Would you rather have a guy who was well endowed but so-so in bed, or smaller but a studly lover?
- If you personally were to pay for a male escort, what is the #1 service you would like him to deliver to you?
Blogging
- What’s the difference between archeofeminism and neofeminism?
- Is there a best place to start reading your blog?
- Where do you find all the quotes you use?
- How do you stop spam comments?
- How do I draw attention to my blog?
- Would you school this ignoramus for me?
- Why am I slowly losing Twitter followers?
- Will you publish my question in your blog?
- Why don’t you take a vacation from the blog?
- How can an anonymous blogger accept donations?
- Do you mind editing or deleting reader comments?
- Can you give me advice on blogging anonymously?
- Is it just me, or are you less patient than you used to be?
- Can you change the design that appears in my comments?
- Will you write answers to prohibitionist idiots on other websites?
- I enjoyed your column of (x date), but it was rather superficial and I wanted to know why you didn’t mention y?
- Why haven’t you corrected the egregious factual errors in the Wikipedia article on prostitution?
Miscellaneous
- Are all women crazy?
- Is electrolysis permanent?
- How do Kegels exercises work?
- Can you give me any beauty tips?
- Is what the “Video Vigilante” does legal?
- Why is “pussy” slang for female genitalia?
- Can you let me know when you do whatever?
- What do you think about “opt-in” porn filtering?
- Do you think jealousy is due to nature or nurture?
- How can a client help to achieve decriminalization?
- Where does the phrase “turning tricks” come from?
- What do you think is really behind the “War on Women”?
- Why do you advise activists not to debate prohibitionists?
- Why would a woman send mixed sexual signals to a man?
- Are you offended when amateurs wear “hooker” costumes?
- Would a stay-at-home wife contract be legally enforceable?
- If a man wants an open marriage, what’s the wife there for?
- Is it in the harlot’s best interests to maintain the patriarchy?
- Isn’t an adult woman who teases a teen boy a child molester?
- Can a sexually & economically unconventional relationship last?
- What is the alternative to cops for victims of actual violent crime?
- What are the possible social effects of the male contraceptive pill?
- Why are more female teachers getting involved with male students?
- How do you expose a man pretending to be a woman on a chat site?
- How can one educate irrational people about “sex trafficking” hysteria?
- Is it normal to feel like a failure when you’re behind your peers in school?
- Why do people get so upset if a woman prefers men of one particular ethnicity?
- What’s the solution to male sexual frustration beside prostitution or masturbation?
- Why can’t women understand that most “creeps” are just frustrated, not dangerous?
- I’ve read that girls in Southeast Asia “treat men like kings” sexually; what does that really mean?
- Why don’t the people who support decriminalization work together with those who support legalization?
- How can I reconcile my conscience with working for a company that’s involved with spreading “trafficking” hysteria?
- Is it inevitable that a man is going to cheat for sexual variety? If so, how would one let a prospective husband know that he should do so with a professional?