Posts Tagged ‘holidays’

Vernal Equinox 2018

The apparent path of the sun will cross the equator moving northward at 16:15 UTC today, signaling the beginning of spring in the Northern Hemisphere and autumn in the Southern.  Enjoy the milder weather to come, and Blessed Be!

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Diary #401

Last week was one of those rare ones which was absolutely lovely from beginning to end.  I had two new clients who were both top-notch and fun to be with; received a generous gift from a very dear friend, and got to spend a few hours chatting with her; gave a lecture via Skype to a class at OSU taught by someone who was a student in that class when I gave a similar lecture a number of years ago; hosted my friend Angela Keaton while she was in town for SASS; had a lovely little party with her and another dear friend on Thursday night; enjoyed a chocolate martini with several other sex workers after the SASS panel on Saturday night; gave a lap dance to a very lucky gentleman on stage at the SWOP fundraiser Sunday night (my first public performance of the kind since 1999); and generally spent as little time sober over the weekend as I could manage.  It was, as my grandmother might’ve said, a gas.  And I hope to have as many weeks like it as possible this year.

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While I don’t blame any sex worker living under a criminalized or “legalized” regime for keeping her silence, it’s imperative that those of us who have less to lose be as “out” as we can manage under our individual circumstances.  –  “Out and Proud

Today is Sex Worker Rights Day, an international observance began by Indian sex workers to commemorate their victory over prohibitionists who tried to shut down a large sex worker rally.  It was one of the most epic failures ever; not only were the antis unable to silence those sex workers, they created an opportunity for millions of sex workers all over the world to speak out, not just for one year but every year.  Even sex workers who can’t usually be “out” may be able to use this opportunity to join with their sisters and brothers in speaking out against the tyranny which is routinely enacted against us by police and politicians.  But for some of us, this day is only different in that our activities are more formal and group-oriented; for us, every day is Sex Worker Rights Day in miniature:

…it would be much easier to count the number [of people in my life] who don’t [know I’m a whore] than the ones who do.  Those few friends who aren’t whores themselves certainly know I’m one, as do the majority of the professionals I deal with…and even when strangers ask what I do for a living I generally tell them…the movement for gay & lesbian rights didn’t start to gain traction until enough queer people were “out” that most people realized that they knew and perhaps even loved someone queer; it will be the same for sex worker rights…I have no spouse to embarrass, no children who could be taken from me, no family I’m not already estranged from, no future career plans that could be torpedoed by an employer discovering my history of harlotry.  And while no sex worker is safe while any of us are considered criminals, I have less personally to lose than many others and so I’m proud to be both visible and respected for my work, without shame or fear…

If being out as a sex worker is easier for you than for many others, I urge you to at least try it on for size; when you’re in a place where no one knows you, try being open about it to see how it feels, and even if you can’t maintain it at least those few people got to see that we aren’t caricatures or “victims”.  If you can’t be public (and believe me, those of us who are understand and respect your reasons for not joining us), please support the cause in any way you can, especially on social media now that this week’s FOSTA vote has put us one step closer to having that taken away from us.  And if you aren’t yourself a sex worker, you can still speak up against injustice, call your representatives, and donate your time and/or money to help; if you’re a professional you could even donate pro bono services.  And I don’t just mean today; while these celebrations are useful rallying points, if we’re to succeed we need to fight for sex worker rights 365 days a year.

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Valentine’s Day 2018

As longtime readers know, Valentine’s Day is my least favorite of holidays, and I’m not particularly fond of the typical iconography associated with it, either (which is often weird or violent or creepy as hell).  So every year I try to share an exception, like this cute little pussy (shut up) with a direct, understated message that isn’t an awful pun.

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Mardi Gras 2018

Maybe the places where many of y’all live don’t observe it, but I still do. So Happy Mardi Gras, dear readers!

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Imbolc 2018

The Celtic goddess Brigit, like so many other pagan deities, was turned into a Christian saint; this is a photo I took last July at one of her many shrines in Ireland.  This day is sacred to her, and to the flame with which she awakens the world from winter.  Sometimes things that seem dead are just waiting for the right conditions to awaken; may all the things that do so in your life be good ones. Blessed Be!

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Diary #393

Though the holiday season officially ended on Saturday, Lorelei and I have planned a sort of epilogue to it; very early Thursday morning we’ll be departing for Mexico and not returning until the following Tuesday.  Don’t worry, there will be pictures!  We’ll probably be tweeting them periodically all weekend.  If you’re jealous, maybe you should book a duo with us for when we return so you can absorb a little of our surplus Mexico mojo; you can contact either of us as you prefer.  If you’ve been thinking about it, there’s no time like the present.  Oh, and speaking of Lorelei, this is just a reminder that we’ve moved our Doctor Who night to Wednesday, so if you enjoy pictures like this one, that’s the time to look for them now.  Please forgive the short column; I have some packing to do!

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