Diary #491

Unlike last week, which only seemed quiet, this week was genuinely quiet.  And you know what?  It was hard to be upset about that, and I didn’t really try.  Some writing, a couple of nice sessions with regulars, getting my hair and nails done, doing a fun podcast that I’ll tell you about when it drops, planning Thanksgiving, doing a little shopping and hiring someone to help me finish a long-delayed project; that about sums up the productive portions of the week.  Otherwise, I actually managed to do some light reading (!!!) and have made some new additions to my wishlist (if you’re considering getting me a Christmas present), and I did a bit of philosophizing while stoned that might make it into a future story or philosophy column.  Tomorrow I’ll be driving out to Sunset in the evening, and then the feast on Thursday and tree-trimming on Friday; with any luck, I won’t have anything more exciting than that to tell you about in next week’s diary.  Except for reminding you of my toy drive, which is always exciting.

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Back Issue #77

Whole imaginary populations of victimized women and children are…created out of air.  –  “Imaginary Victims”

• Burke was the police chief who derailed the hunt for the Long Island Killer.
• When government stops prohibiting things & treats prisoners like humans.
• One of my 1st columns on “sex trafficking” hysteria & an angry reply to it.
• A better memorial: eradicating the awful laws she fought so hard against.
• Given petty tyranny of US prison officials, I’m amazed any of ’em allow it.
• One day: similar headlines on people framed on “sex trafficking” charges.
• Low-population states have the silliest supposed “gypsy whore” magnets.
• Amateurs are a menace to public health; license & heavily regulate them.
• San Diego has become one of the US’s most corrupt pocket police states.
• Our descendants will be confused about why we thought this noteworthy.
• Don’t want to worry about neighbors? Buy yourself a country house, twit.
• Huge UK raids have never found more than a few “sex trafficking” cases.
• Unless the unit deposits $400 into my bank, I’m not remotely interested.
• The age-old story of a mother refusing to accept her daughter’s choices.
• I had a feeling he’d extend this fantasy nonsense to his Swiss shop, too.
• Talk about serial killers targeting whores; don’t mention criminalization.
• Palantir is the same company which is helping cops spy on sex workers.
• How many hand jobs did these “heroes” get during their “investigation”?
• Truth from a politician: rarer than an anti-prohibition stance in Ireland.
• The Swedish model especially increases violence vs trans sex workers.
• Brave hero cops save The Children!^TM from desperately-needy people.
• We keep telling you legalization isn’t much better than criminalization.
• When NPR questions “sex trafficking” hysteria, its days are numbered.
• It’s satisfying when the mask of concern for “trafficking victims” slips.
• Taiwan becomes the first place in Asia to legalize same-sex marriage.
• Intelligence is not a prerequisite for public office or local news media.
• Media in the British Isles are much more critical of anti-porn hysteria.
• We’re lucky to have such moral exemplars to “protect” and “lead” us.
• Conditioning kids to accept surveillance of every aspect of their lives.
• Only 3 years from the time I predicted this to actual implementation.
• I just love the pictures of the little animal whores holding their cash.
• Not the first time Weinstein’s been accused of financial shenanigans.
• Finally, a US court finds something it isn’t willing to call “trafficking”.
• The best way to honor veterans is to stop making so many of them.
• It’s great to see so many physicians coming out against prohibition.
• Why attempts to prosecute porn as prostitution are doomed to fail.
• Please help sex workers recover from the two-month election lull.
• Crappy sci-fi TV show inspires pearl-clutching over a sex fantasy.
• I’m glad to see this dangerous placebo is flopping on the market.
• Enjoy the rest of your life on the “sex offender” registry, “officer”.
• What’s “shocking” is most people’s ignorance about sex workers.
• Reporter mysteriously drops talk of “sex trafficking” and “slaves”.
• The narrower the neck, the more “illegal” sex work there will be.
• When “child sex trafficking” really means “giving a friend a ride”.
• “Authorities” claim credit for streetwalkers shifting to online ads.
• If you think this as a positive development, read more carefully.
• Two creepy men attempt to sexually violate women unnoticed.
• Quite possibly the stupidest “sex trafficking” propaganda ever.
• Politicians work to get sex workers evicted & enrich the state.
• Court rules that SAVE Act doesn’t apply to regular escort ads.
• I think my car will soon be able to get to the airport by itself.
• The Daily News mocks the brutal murder of a young woman.
• This is the kind of sick mind that believes in “porn addiction”.
• Dianne Feinstein never met a police-state law she didn’t like.
• It’s good to see so many challenges to these medieval laws.
• It looks like Samantha Azzopardi is back to her usual tricks.
• Admit it; you knew Weiner would claim to be a “sex addict”.
• The quadrennial madness that is a US presidential election.
• A cross between an adult-sized Talky Tina and a Fleshlight.
• The beginning of my Doctor Who dates with Lorelei Rivers.
• Frankie Mullin on the then-recent Soho & Chinatown raids.
• Sadly nearing the end of the Great Clown Panic of 2016.
• Cops make up creative excuses for brutalizing gay men.
• Cornpone cop spins sexual fantasies of raped teen girls.
• The many, many, many rapist cops of November, 2016.
• Prudes will turn anything related to sex into a problem.
• This prohibitionist article is more of a mess than usual.
• Really, guys? Is it really so hard to just hire an escort?
• Judge is intimidated into backing down from a ruling.
• Note that this kind of abuse is also typical in the US.
• Co-workers mind woman’s children while she works.
• The defense of choice for sex offenders, plus ADHD.
• Sweden is so liberal, so pro-social, so just and kind!
• The problem with criminalizing sex workers’ clients.
• Once in a while a rapist cop gets his comeuppance.
• Because “I was wrong” isn’t in the cop vocabulary.
• A possible move toward decriminalization in India.
• A nice look at the religious beliefs of sex workers.
• Indefinite imprisonment without trial or sentence.
• Protip: suing your own offspring rarely ends well.
• Who could have possibly predicted this outcome?
• We need to keep protesting every damned sting.
• I speak at an anarchist conference in Oklahoma.
• SWOP’s annual fundraiser is going on right now!
• “A few critics call it a form of human trafficking.”
• Because laws are more important than people.
• Like reading something from the 17th century.
• Congress’ first attempt to control the internet.
• The bioethicists are now on our side as well.
• Young-relative-molesting cops of the week.
• Desmond Ravenstone introduces CoSWAC.
• “Youth pastors” are nearly as bad as cops.
• A very interesting development in Ireland.
• A rare decision in favor of self-ownership.
• Very little has changed for James Deen.
• The New York Pot calls a kettle black.
• Sex rays contaminate buildings!
• Some opposition to prohibition.
• I hate too-early Xmas displays.
• Do as they say, not as they do.
• Watch what you say, comrade.
• So much for unique humanity.
• Good riddance to bad rubbish.
• Let’s play “count the idiocies”.
• Much more of this, please.
• Are these people for real?
• My birthday week, 2016.
• Can a client be an ally?
• An odd Thanksgiving.
• The Himel decision.
• On “sex rays”.
• My boob job.

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Diary #490

It’s funny; when I sat down to write this I thought I’d say this week was quiet. But then reflecting back, I realized it actually hadn’t been; I went to a concert with Daedalus and a play with Chekhov, took a bingo-loving friend to the bingo hall for her birthday, attended a small but lovely party at Lady Vi’s on Saturday, then went to Allena Gabosch’s book launch on Sunday.  So it wasn’t actually that quiet; it just somehow felt quiet.  In my youth, my life was full of adventures; when I became a librarian and settled down with Jack I started to miss that, and the universe responded to that mild nostalgia with my Year of Disaster soon afterward.  This is not to say that I no longer like having adventures; I’m just a lot more circumspect about the kind of adventure, and the kind I like are the kind where most of the important factors are firmly under my control (and yes, that’s one of the many reasons I dislike flying).  And when things are relatively quiet, I enjoy them for as long as that lasts rather than looking forward to the next excitement.

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Diary #488

What a lovely birthday week I had!  My friends and readers showered me with gifts; Grace got me this deluxe heated cushion for my writing chair (which is like a little slice of heaven); it also has a vibrate function!  Jae unveiled the curtain project she’s been working on, which included my old sheer bedcurtains from New Orleans; I was too sentimental to let go of them, so she cleverly incorporated them into my new home.  Daedalus gave me this multi-disc set of Beatles rarities, and another of my gents sent me a case of my favorite tea AND a lovely sweater dress!  One of my readers sent me a silver coin with an interesting design, and the ladies who use my incall got me boxes and boxes of supplies.  On Tuesday I met Grace, Chekhov and Jae in Olympia for dinner, then on Wednesday night I had just a small all-whore party (which, as anyone in the know can tell you, are the best parties).  Then on my birthday itself I had a little Doctor Who night with Lorelei.  I also hear that of her gentlemen is sending me something as well, which is pretty damned sweet of him!  And I’ll show it to you (with the sweater dress) next week!

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Diary #487

On Thursday night I hopped on a redeye for North Carolina to attend my friend Kaytlin Bailey’s wedding.  It may have been the best wedding I’ve ever attended; Kaytlin has a keen sense for the gently unconventional, so the ceremony and reception were blissfully free of all the tiresome, hackneyed conventions which infest modern US weddings, while yet keeping all the meaningful rituals.  As you can see in the picture below the bride was absolutely stunning, and yes that’s the lovely Jillian Keenan (another dear friend and one of Kaytlin’s bridesmaids) sitting next to me (the other lady is Kaytlin’s best friend & maid of honor).  In addition to the lovely festivities and catching up with old friends (such as Alex Andrews of Swop Behind Bars, who I roomed with), I also got to spend time chatting with a number of the bride’s family members and other wedding guests.  And even my return flight got me home at a reasonable hour on Sunday, where I’m now typing this now.  Please join me in a toast to the bride and groom, and may they be happy and prosper!

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Back Issue #76

Superior authority does not grant superior wisdom.  –  “Q & A (Part One)”

• Cops & politicians enjoy vast circle-jerk to fantasies of enslaved teen girls.
• What “law enforcement” means in claiming it wants to “help” sex workers.
• It’s illegal to pay for sex in Sweden, unless you film it for everyone to see.
• This is pretty sleazy even for an anti-whore sleazefest like Law and Order.
• Americans keep pretending to be shocked, then keep caging more people.
• She “thought she was helping her friends” like I think I’m Maggie McNeill.
• Your periodic reminder that Dennis Hof is a revolting excuse for a human.
• Uber now wants its drivers to spy on sex workers & rat us out to the pigs.
• We’re not hearing quite as much of this “highway” bullshit as we used to.
• This man portrays men we choose to have sex with as “sexual predators”.
• Another private pogrom bankrolled by billionaire sociopath Swanee Hunt.
• May Rolling Stone‘s fortunes follow its credibility down the anti-sex toilet.
• Clown hysteria gives rise to organized violence & naked authoritarianism.
• Philippine president carrying the “War on Drugs” to its logical conclusion.
• More terrifying insanity from the Polk County, Florida pocket police state.
• Is any other work so often treated as a subject for “debate” by outsiders?
• ESPLERP vs. Gascon reaches a court which might actually do something.
• Liz Brown takes a scalpel to King County’s stupid response to her article.
• The majority of sex businesses worldwide are controlled by sex workers.
• Self-deception, pearl-clutching & offensive ignorance, all under one roof!
• I’m pleased for the very small part I played in helping expose this rapist.
• Lingerie shopping with other whores; Lorelei introduces me to Hamilton.
• Just a reminder that prohibitionism still exists in decriminalized regimes.
• Garments prostitutes were required to wear in medieval European cities.
• This ridiculous fantasy is nauseating even by “sex trafficking” standards.
• Picket-fence gay men are such wonderful, dependable sex worker allies.
• Nothing they can do to this monster would approach what I’d do to him.
• They can’t even maintain their own paradigm for more than a sentence.
• How could you have been promiscuous when you never amateur dated?
• Institutional responses to clown hysteria grow increasingly more stupid.
• Stupid assumptions about sex work result in incredibly stupid concepts.
• What happens when you don’t fight tyrannical laws from the beginning.
• “Operation Cross-Country” appears to be spreading to other countries.
• And some of you thought the clown thing was kind of off-topic for me.
• Po-faced twits with taped mouths carry pre-printed propaganda cards.
• An interesting article on getting funding for sex worker rights projects.
• Fascist scum like this will be first against the wall after the politicians.
• Why do so many losers want porn movies to be condom commercials?
• A program so unpopular cops need to force or frighten women into it.
• “Authorities” make another bogus claim about a “sex trafficking gang”.
• Future people will marvel at our deeply weird obsession with virginity.
• Amateur dating seems so creepy, weird and kind of disgusting to me.
• Seattle pretends to be “liberal”, but it’s home to vile bullshit like this.
• “…but that only permitted other men with machines to enslave them.”
• Will Asstoon ever get professional help for his delusions of grandeur?
• Control freak lobbies for law defining adult sex workers as children.
• “They lied, of course.  That’s what police officers are trained to do.”
• The bizarre things one finds in news stories about clown incidents.
• Picture a crab waving its claws around and foaming at the mouth.
• Half of all Americans are now in a pig facial recognition database.
• A win for Backpage on one front and a huge setback on another.
• A sex therapist debunks prohibitionist propaganda about clients.
• “Sex addiction” is now a defense even for violent sex offenders.
• The Great Clown Panic of 2016 continues to spin out of control.
• We aren’t hearing a peep out of Gay, Inc about this any more.
• Will you settle a dispute between me and another sex worker?
• As long as these laws exist, all women are vulnerable to cops.
• I find it darkly amusing that amateurs are so shocked by this.
• “Futurists” should put their “predictions” further in the future.
• Yet another study confirms what we’ve been saying all along.
• Isn’t the Swedish model at least better than criminalization?
• Prohibitionists want these guys to “protect” us from pimps.
• Canadian cops are trying to intimidate sex workers again.
• A testament to the entrenched stupidity of authoritarians.
• Prohibitionists claim the Mafia wanted Prohibition to end.
• Kamala Harris’ highly illegal publicity stunt vs Backpage.
• Lambda Legal files an amicus brief in the ESPLERP case.
• Another sleazy scam artist raping aspiring sex workers.
• Dinner with Christina Slater and Desmond Ravenstone.
• Caty Simon on the “sex work leads to drug use” myth.
• It’s impossible to express how much this delights me.
• A disproportionate number of actual pimps are cops.
• More “beauty salon sex trafficking” idiocy from Ohio.
• The ACLU files an amicus brief in the ESPLERP case.
• Sometimes even a little bit of “authority” is enough.
• While the feds actively persecute some sex workers…
• That’s how extraordinarily dumb this sounds to me.
• The shorter phrase for this is “prudish busybodies”.
• Robot whore fantasy meets blow job cafe fantasy.
• On the Trump “grab her by the pussy” brouhaha.
• Be careful out there, my sisters in Philadelphia.
• What should I do if I fall in love with an escort?
• Never call the cops for any reason whatsoever.
• Sexually-unsatisfied males can be dangerous.
• Possibly the most promising cure for HIV yet.
• Clown hysteria is a moral panic in miniature.
• Man of La Mancha with three other whores.
• “Youth pastors” are nearly as bad as cops.
• Felicia Anna on the “My Red Light” scam.
• Mississippi cops go ape shit over clowns.
• Developments in the Celeste Guap case.
• I love it when they feed on each other.
• My very first (two-part) Q & A column.
• A setback for women’s rights in India.
• Another massive pogrom in Soho.
• In which I get a new smartphone.
• All rapist cops of October, 2016.
• A short history of clown panics.
• Liz did this so I didn’t have to.
• What really causes addiction?
• Let’s play “count the idiocies”.
• Not a police state, no sirree!
• This is an excellent analogy.
• Introducing Science Hooker.
• My sex-related pet peeves.
• THINK OF THE CHILDREN!
• “Safe house” = “jail”.
• Links for Halloween.
• Stop faking! Or not.
• In memory of April.

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Diary #486

Last weekend I went out to Sunset on Saturday and returned on Monday; in addition to allowing me to avoid Tacoma traffic, it also made the week feel shorter (which was quite nice considering that I had several lovely appointments in that shortened week).  And now this week I’m flying off to North Carolina for my friend Kaytlin Bailey’s wedding, then next week I’ll have a small birthday celebration mostly involving getting high as a kite with some dear friends.  All in all, it has been an exceptionally pleasant autumn for me; I’m no longer young enough to dance through the dry leaves under the moon, but I’ve at last reached an emotional space where I’m OK with my life as it is, and I live in the present rather than always in the future as I used to.  And since I’ve learned how to manage my summer anxiety through the magic of cannabis, my brain has already relaxed into dark mode rather than taking months to do so as it has for a number of years now.  My life isn’t perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but the awful things locked up in crates under my mental stairs have been relatively quiet for a while now, so I’m going to enjoy that for as long as it lasts.

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