I’m 22 and I’ve never done anything sexual with a woman in my life. No holding hands, no kissing, no making out, no cuddling; I think I’m too shy and lack confidence. I’ve been out on a few dates, but nothing ever really seems to happen. I’ve read some of your other posts about being a virgin or being a sensitive guy going to see an escort, but I’m not sure it would really help because I want more than just sex. Are escorts OK with cuddling and kissing? Besides that, I could only afford a couple hours at best. Sometimes I wish there were sex therapists who have sex with patients; that might help me. But what can I do to make myself more confident and less shy around women? And is there a certain kind of woman who would be better for an inexperienced guy?
Escorts who specialize in providing a girlfriend-like encounter are referred to as “GFE” escorts, but of course you’d have to find a reliable one because there is no quality control on that term and anyone can call herself “GFE” even if she’s not remotely girlfriendly. So even with research it might take you time and money to find an escort who’d be able to give you the kind of experience you’re looking for. But I don’t honestly think it’s what you need, though it might help you to relax a little so you wouldn’t feel the loneliness so acutely. There is a kind of sex therapist who has sex with patients; they’re called “sex surrogates”, but they see patients by referral from psychologists and IMHO you’d end up spending more than you would for an escort without (in your specific case) any real increase in benefits.
I have some good news for you, though. Twenty-two is actually quite young, though I know it doesn’t seem so to you because that’s your whole lifespan. There are a lot of people who have never had relationships by your age, but far fewer who haven’t by thirty; you’re moving into a time in your life when the likelihood of intimacy nearly always increases. I’ve written before to a gentleman whose situation was not-dissimilar to yours; he was a bit older, but the advice still applies to you. The most important thing is patience; relationships simply cannot be rushed, and if you feel a sharp need to be in one (as you clearly do) it makes the waiting seem much longer and harder than it actually is. Also, if you’re desperate you may let yourself be caught up in a bad, toxic relationship, which (believe me!) is much worse than none.
Finally, you ask if there’s a specific kind of woman who might be better in helping you get experience, and who wouldn’t judge you for being a virgin; the answer is yes. Some older women enjoy initiating young men into sexual life, and I have met many men whose first experience was with a woman 10 or 20 years his senior; such women often consider the lack of experience a plus. The only drawback to such a relationship from your point of view is that they are often short-lived; whether the woman is just looking for a younger playmate rather than a life-partner, or if she loses interest once the young man gains confidence, or she’s in denial about aging and seeking a succession of younger partners as validation of her sex appeal, or if she truly believes her young lover needs to move on to partners of his own generation, the end result is the same. So if you do get into such a relationship, keep in mind that it may only be a brief stop on your greater journey; if it turns into a long-term relationship, well and good. But if it doesn’t, you will still have gained confidence that will help you with other women, and experience that can guide your future course as long as you learn from it.