Here are three propositions from the stance of a Devil’s Advocate. 1) A sex worker puts on an act to please her client; might he not then think that all women are acting when they’re being nice to him? How can he tell reality from acting, and does it matter? 2) If women could make as much money doing other kinds of work, there would undoubtedly be fewer harlots. So, harlotry needs women to be impecunious, and men to have money. If there was real equality or equivalence, would harlotry become an historical oddity? Is it therefore in the harlot’s best interests to maintain the patriarchy? 3) Sex workers see men at their best and worst; wouldn’t a retired courtesan therefore make the best partner for a man?
1) It’s certainly possible that a man could become paranoid in that way; in fact, it’s the plot of Jacques Brel’s song “Next”, which I featured in my very first hooker songs column. However, I’ve never actually heard a man complain about that in real life or online; while clients do indeed seem concerned about telling the difference between a professional’s behavior and genuine romantic interest, they seem less worried about amateurs’ behavior and more concerned about not being able to enjoy themselves fully because they know it isn’t “real”.
2) You’re making several assumptions here which are simply not true. The first, which is a very common one, is that men have more disposable income for some external reason (“patriarchy” or whatever), when in fact most of the reason is that men and women have different priorities. Men will always make more than women on average, because a lot more men are willing to sell their souls, give up personal time and drive themselves into an early grave in order to succeed. Furthermore, only a certain segment of whores do the work because they are in dire need; a lot larger fraction (especially in the West) simply prefer the work to the alternatives. Take me, for example; don’t you think I could succeed in some high-paying conventional career? Of course I could, but I don’t want to; being a whore is for me much easier and much more pleasant than the other options which bring in the same level of income. I’m not remotely alone in feeling that way, and that won’t change no matter how much artificial “equality” the social engineers inflict on society. That’s one of the main reasons the neofeminists hate us and want our profession violently suppressed: whores will never be good little collectivist worker bees in their totalitarian dystopia, so they want us to have no other option. In short, the so-called “patriarchy” will maintain itself without the help of harlots and in spite of neofeminist attempts to reprogram human nature to fit their psychotic delusions.
3) My husband certainly thinks so, and I’m sure he’s not the only one.