Comments on: …And Don’t Forget To Wash Behind Your Ears

By: Brandy Devereaux

Brandy Devereaux — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 14:33:55 +0000

We did receive SSI (Social Security Survivor Benefits) each month till the boys were 18. However since their father was only 35 when he passed and he worked as a carpenter (ie mostly cash based) most of his adult life, the benefits weren’t much. (Benefits are based on percentage that the person put into social security from the deduction in the paychecks… or something like that). Basically we received enough to cover most of their childcare expenses. It was better than nothing but not near enough to cover rent, groceries, car payments, utilities, etc.

By: Maggie McNeill

Maggie McNeill — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 00:59:10 +0000

Amen, Sister!

By: Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 23:55:13 +0000

Holy hell, Brandy. Being a widow is a far fucking cry from having kids and deciding that the work of being a mother sucks, so it’s off to the daycare with you while Mommy goes back to her office.

I’d say you taught your kids about personal responsibility in spades! I wish we lived in a world where widows were paid to raise children who have ALREADY lost a parent. I’d say you stepped up to the plate, and them some.

By: Brandy Devereaux

Brandy Devereaux — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 22:17:41 +0000

Being a single parent for my kids entire life (my 22 y/o was five and my 18 y/o was 18 months when their father passed) it is especially tough NOT to be with the kids. Making up for two incomes led to 12 hour days and home in time (maybe) to tuck them in and do it again the next day. Hookerdom has allowed me the ability to work only within the hours they are in school and earn more than the 12 hour days, and I could take off when they were sick and schedule my own hours around school activities.

Quality of parenting counts as much as time spent with them. I’ve always preached personal responsibility (as in if you fuck up, you know you fucked up, your ass is going to sit in jail bud… don’t call me till it’s time to pick you up). (Fucking up meaning something like breaking and entering, burglary, you know.. doing stupid shit). Heck I remember trying to tell the cops to arrest my son when he decided it would be fun to break into a house and party there with his friends. Cops called me to pick him up I said no, take his ass to jail… in cuffs.. whole nine yards! Cops wouldn’t do it… thanks for not backing me up… sheesh

By: Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 15:06:33 +0000

This is the natural consequence of mothers abandoning their duties and responsibilities to their families. Women have been raised to believe that the only place they can find identity is at work. The only valuable contribution they can make to society is to generate cash and then spend it on shit they probably don’t need in the first place.

Unfortunately, there’s that whole problem of needing to create more humans to keep the whole ball rolling. So we have children.

Children + work = disaster.

These kids have been raised in institutions or by hired help from birth. They have their entire days structured and formed and make virtually no personal decisions of their own. They have grown up seeing their parents avoid the responsibility of actually raising their own children.

Where exactly are they supposed to acquire a sense of personal responsibility?

There is nothing wrong with women working. There is something very wrong with mothers of young children working at a job that requires the child to spend long hours in the care of someone else.

It’s very fitting that an overly instrusive government is called a nanny state. That’s the central problem. Parents hire nannies to do the job they have a profound responsibility to do. They sidestep responsibility for their own children, and pay someone else to pick up the slack.

Well, you get what you raise. Welcome to “Please Nanny Tell Me What To Do”. The daycare generation comes of age. So far, it’s just been delightful.

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 14:55:24 +0000

In modern society, everyone but certain groups it’s convenient to demonize is a victim. There’s no such thing as personal responsibility anymore apparently. It’s much easier to blame an outside entity for one’s own shortcomings than to assess one’s personal history of poor decisions and work to make the changes necesssary to achieve better results in life. So sad.

By: Maggie McNeill

Maggie McNeill — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 13:38:42 +0000

Oh, Gorbachev, that wasn’t really intended to be a message to you! I was just working out how to post it as a link in the right column and replied to your post temporarily (notice I deleted it) because it was the first one. I’m sorry if you felt like I was singling you out, because I wasn’t; I just wanted to look at the html for it!

By: Gorbachev

Gorbachev — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 08:53:27 +0000

http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/2011/04/15/house-rules/

Thanks, ma’am.

By: Sailor Barsoom

Sailor Barsoom — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 04:10:05 +0000

Well, that wasn’t exactly what I meant, but…

hhhmmmnnn……

Maybe that is exactly what I meant.

By: Maggie McNeill

Maggie McNeill — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 01:30:23 +0000

And I would totally agree, except that supporting laws which prevent others from making the sort of mistake she was freely allowed to make is exactly the same as adults who drank at 18 supporting raising the drinking age to 21 because they know what THEY were like at that age.